Blessings from Heaven

Surrogacy the way I see it...

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

How Long Does it Take Before I am Matched?

I am asked this question all of the time, and
generally, it can take anywhere from six (6) to twelve (12) months before you are matched with the intended parents.

Once you have visited our website and filled out the screening application, we determine if you will make a good candidate for our surrogacy program.

Providing you pass the initial screening, you are then sent a personality inventory by either email (PDF attachment) or standard mail. This is a 18 page questionnaire that asks an assortment of questions regarding your childhood and upbringing, personal goals and expectations throughout the surrogacy process. Once you have finished filling out the inventory, send it back along with a copy of your drivers license and photos of yourself. This personality inventory is viewed by the intended parents and gives them an in depth look into your life. This inventory is also crucial in establishing the type of relationship you desire with the intended parents

To match you properly with intended parents that you will work well with, we must get to know you on a personal level. This obviously does not happen over night and we would not be doing our job to match you too quickly before knowing what you expect from this process. What we mean by “your expectations of this process” is, let’s say, you may feel that after the baby is born, you would like to be updated about the baby every so often by a card or picture. In turn, we would match you with a couple that desired the same “after the baby relationship” that you did.

Expectations of circumstances, such as these, are essential to know. Some surrogates desire no contact with the couple what so ever after the birth. It is our job to know you well enough and to ask the appropriate questions in order to ensure a successful match. Some matches are made very quickly, you could almost say that it was a meant to be type of occurrence, but other matches take time with careful thought and consideration.

During this time, it is imperative that the you keep in contact with Little Blessings. If the you move or changes your phone number, we will have no way of contacting you and letting her know if an intended parent were interested in meeting with you. Little Blessings also understands that since you began your surrogacy journey, you then decided it was not for you. There have also been times where the motherly instincts have been stirred during this time, and the surrogate decides that she wants more children of her own, so she decides not to proceed. We completely understand and whatever the reason, all we ask is that you take a moment and let us know of your decision.  The last thing we want to do is keep hounding you when you have decided not proceed.

Trust me, there is a bit of work to do in the mean time.  So visit our website, begin the process because we would love to have you around for the long haul!



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